The majority of married couples report that their biggest source of tension is money. DH and I have never once in our marriage argued about money.   We don’t have much of it to argue about, and DH doesn’t really care what happens with what we do have.  For a man who’s biggest expenditures are when I force him to buy a new pair of combat boots, there’s not a lot to fight about. That’s not to say DH and I don’t do our share of fighting uselessly about crap that doesn’t really matter.  Our biggest battle is just a little different. Cleaning. Dh lived with his parents until he joined the army as a teenager. His super clean mom may be the definition of perfect military wife, I like to call her the definition of unreasonably high expectations.  She keeps an impeccable home.  Sparkling floors and daily vacuuming (sometimes more than once), windows always washed, everything constantly dusted and even that little cupboard under the sink is clean and organized all the time. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mother in law, she’s the perfect military mom to have because she’s been where we are and she knows the best ways to be supportive. I just can’t compete woth her house. I don’t even try.   Thing is, Dh he joined the army and shortly thereafter married and moved in with me. I am not dirty, but I am no clean freak.   When we were first married he would go away often and our little house would go to ruin.  I would keep it clean enough…