Sometimes, as a community we just want to be heard. Every community does. We all look to be understood, right? So then we see things like and this and this and at first I thought it was funny and cute and I had a giggle until I realized that people were serious. Now don’t get me wrong, years ago when I first saw those ‘things not to ask a military wife’ I thought they were funny, tongue in cheek, cute ideas.  I even posted one on here once a few years ago. But friends, they’ve gotten out of hand. They were meant as a JOKE. And while I still think that asking my husband ‘have you ever killed someone?’ deserves whatever smart ass response he gives you about not yet today, we’ve really got to cut it out handing out a list of rules for people to follow if they want to talk to us. And I agree that obnoxious is someone telling you “I know exactly how you feel”, especially when they are talking about a deployment because of a business trip to Kansas. But we’re not talking about that.  We’re talking about real friends, acquaintances, and family members sharing their honest struggles about their spouses absence. Because we are constantly like ‘my civilian friends don’t help/understand/support me‘ with one breath, while we are busy telling them we don’t want to hear anything they have to say, or any struggles they may have, with the other. Friendships are a two way street.   Military spouses do not have the monopoly on missing their spouses. And here’s the absolute truth I miss my husband when…