This week, the bloggers in the military community are sharing posts on the bullying that happens within ourselves. I’ve written something on the subject that also focuses on my mistake tattoo and postage stamp dress, over here
You know the type. Sometimes it’s overt, when someone treats another military spouse badly because of rank, branch, job. How many kids they have, how they wear their hair, how they dress or where they choose to live.
1. I expect everyone to have had the same experiences as me.
Who put me in charge of deciding someones life’s worth? Everyone has their own path, in life and the military. It serves no purpose for me to judge one greater than another.
2. I expect everyone to be having the same experience as me.
3. I expect everyone to cope the same ways I do.
Shovel your own driveway, it’s not hard. Put the baby in the car in their car seat if you need to. How easy is that?Put the toddler in a playpen while you mow the lawn. Worked for me.
Not everyone is going to find what worked for ME is what worked for THEM. No matter how many times I say it in a super patronizingly encouraging voice. What is infinitely more helpful is offering suggestions and then supporting someone as they find their own means of coping. Which might not involve running or wine AT ALL, and I just need to learn to accept that.
4. I judge the ways I do well against the ways you fail.
Maybe they can open their bedroom closet door.
Sometimes change is going to have to start with me.
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