The following is a loose transcript of the 2nd half of my key note speech at this year’s Military Family Services conference.  I’m so grateful for the opportunity I had to share at the conference and hope that it was even a little successful in what I set out to do, which was only share a story in the hopes it would get people thinking.  I’m just one family and have only my own voice. Thanks so much for letting it be heard. After sharing my story, I think it’s important that we first understand that I am coming from just one family.  We are not special; there are thousands just like us out there.  But we all come from slightly different perspectives.  The Canadian Forces has many different trades, jobs and postings that will all lend itself to very different experiences.  Each military unit has its own unique culture.  And each family within it, their own story.  Blended families.  Dual services families.  Same sex partnerships, families with or without children.  We can run the gamut of religious, political and social diversity. Looking at us all, what then is our goal?  Are we looking for temporary fixes or long term resiliency?  Are we giving tools or band aids? If we are, in fact, trying to teach families resiliency, how do we do that?  Well, I can say that in our story, I know what didn’t work. There were times that I received more services than others.  One deployment, I even received help from the Regiment by the way of a driver to take me to appointments that I was unable to drive to for medical reasons.  Which was amazing, and needed at the time as we were new and I…